but i think it’s about forgiveness…

for·give
   /fərˈgɪv/ Show Spelled [fer-giv] Show IPA verb, -gave, -giv·en, -giv·ing.
–verb (used with object)
1. to grant pardon for or remission of (an offense, debt, etc.); absolve.
2. to give up all claim on account of; remit (a debt, obligation, etc.).
3. to grant pardon to (a person).
4. to cease to feel resentment against: to forgive one’s enemies.
5. to cancel an indebtedness or liability of: to forgive the interest owed on a loan.

So I’ve been thinking a lot about forgiveness lately. People say to forgive and forget …. but I don’t think that works for me. At least not yet. I suppose this works if you’re talking about a little one hitting his kid brother for taking his toy or something (perhaps not even then) …. But what do you do about forgiving the “unforgivable”? I’m talking big ticket items. You know the ones. The unspeakables. Fill in the blank.

I’ve heard stories of incredible forgiveness and grace, from people who have been in these situations. Some have said they have forgiven the person who has wronged them. How? What does that end product look and feel like and is there really an end product of a “forgiveness journey”?

I’ve come to view forgiveness as a journey. At least for me, it has to be a journey vs. a one time wham, bam, thank you ma’am: you’re forgiven. My mind doesn’t work like that.

A journey however … a journey is different

A journey implies that one is constantly striving to improve

A journey can move one closer to moving past the wrongdoings and hurt…

A journey can take time, and yet one might learn a few things on the way…

A journey is a passage from a world of hurt to a world of freedom…

A journey allows others along for the ride…

What does forgiveness mean to you?

…and maybe these kids are on to something… 🙂

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3 Responses to but i think it’s about forgiveness…

  1. Robin says:

    I’ve never thought about it like that, but I think you’re right that forgiveness is a journey — it definitely comes with time. I guess if it wer easy, it would happen immediately, but it’s not. Forgiving is more about yourself than the other person.

    • stepanana says:

      i agree — i think it is about yourself more than others at times. sometimes, there’s just a whole lot to process and it’s hard to forgive when you’re not sure what the other person is thinking, either.

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